Hi! I'm Shellie
And I’m here to share with you the tools, knowledge and experience I’ve acquired to help women create the marriage they truly wish.
Certified Life Coach
Shellie earned her life coach certification from the Life Coach School in 2017.
Symbis Certified Facilitator
Shellie earned her certification from Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, ED.D in 2022
FROM STRUGGLE TO MISSION
The little girl you see here is me. Born on the Winter Solstice, the shortest day and longest night of the year, I spent my childhood obsessed with the movie “Annie”… I dressed up like her, red curly wig and all, sang, danced and pretended to be her. I developed a passion for dancing, all through my childhood, high school and junior college years.
But what this photo doesn't show is that maybe the reason I liked so much “Annie” so much is that she, like me, and maybe even you, did not have the ideal childhood.
Annie struggled with wanting to feel like she belonged to a family that could be hers forever… and as a little girl, I connected with that, because my parents had troubles with their marriage since I was very young, and finally divorced by the time I was 13 years old.
This was what created in me that strong desire to learn more about what actually makes a marriage work . . . and what actually makes a marriage incredible.
I grew up being taught to be virtuous, but without too much explanation about what that would actually look like through the different stages of my life. What does it mean to be virtuous as a little girl, a teenager, a young adult, and a married woman?
If you’re like me, you might have grown up thinking that sex was a bad thing since not many people seemed to talk about it in good terms. Mainly, I heard “don’t behave in certain ways,” “don’t give boys the wrong idea” and “don’t have sex until you’re married.” That is a lot of “don’ts” when it comes to intimacy.
But then, did you take a class on how to change our perspective from don’t do it, to go ahead and do it, and enjoy it, once you got married? I sure didn’t. To make things even more complicated, some negative things often happen to us girls growing up that only add to the challenges of intimacy.
But even with all of this, I can tell you that it is totally possible to have the marriage you want, but it’s only for those with real commitment...
And I don’t say this just out of studying and reading books… my husband and I went to high school together and years later we were married. Although I struggled with infertility issues, we now have 5 children, two of whom are adopted.
So I think I can tell you… You can have the marriage you want, but the path there is a challenge!
The thing is we are meant to be challenged . . . and being challenged in marriage and intimacy issues are all part of what we are here to experience, learn from, and grow from. Too often, we don’t even realize that we are the ones holding ourselves back from the incredible marriage that we desire.